So, your baby is off to college! While they’re busy picking out dorm decor and figuring out where to eat on campus, you’re probably juggling a mix of excitement, pride, and maybe a bit of anxiety (okay, maybe a lot of anxiety). Welcome to the club of college parents—it’s a wild ride!
College isn’t just a big deal for your student; it’s a major life change for you too. Whether you’re a first-timer or a seasoned pro with older kids already in college, there’s always something new to learn. So, buckle up, because we’re diving into some essential rules that every parent needs to know!
Rule #1: FERPA—Yes, You Need Permission Now!
Remember the days when you had access to every grade, every report card, and every parent-teacher conference? Well, those days are over! Thanks to FERPA (Family Educational Rights and Privacy Act), once your kid turns 18, you’ll need their permission to see things like:
- Academic records
- Semester grades
- Financial accounts
- Health records
Yep, even though you’re paying the tuition (and probably helping fund their caffeine addiction), you can’t just waltz in and demand to see their GPA. But hey, this is where a little negotiation comes into play. Maybe it’s time to have the “I’ll pay the bills, but let’s keep me in the loop” conversation. Trust me, it’s a perfect moment to teach your “adult” child the fine art of negotiation—skills that will serve them well long after college.
Oh, and a quick tip: this could be your chance to lay some ground rules about what special circumstances (like financial or academic challenges) might require you to step in as an advocate.
Rule #2: Financial Aid Reconsideration—You Can Appeal!
Not happy with the financial aid package? Don’t worry, you can appeal! Yep, just because your student got an initial offer doesn’t mean it’s set in stone. Here are a few reasons to appeal for reconsideration:
- The aid package doesn’t cover enough.
- It’s heavy on loans (and you’d prefer more scholarships or grants).
- Your family’s financial situation has changed (job loss, medical bills, etc.).
- Your kid didn’t get a work-study option.
The magic word here is professional judgment—financial aid officers can make adjustments based on your family’s situation. And no, you can’t just shoot an email and call it a day. Schedule a face-to-face meeting (or Zoom if needed), and make your case directly. It’s all about showing documentation and being clear about the need for additional support.
Rule #3: Pass/Fail—A Lifeline for Struggling Students
Here’s a little insider tip: if your student is struggling in a class, they might be able to opt for a pass/fail grade. Instead of a traditional letter grade, they can receive a “P” (which doesn’t affect their GPA), but beware—if they fail, that will hit their GPA hard.
Encourage them to talk to their academic advisor and explore all their options. This is one of those times when you, as the “home sage,” can offer advice and remind them to stay on top of things. After all, navigating college isn’t just about hitting the books; it’s about using every available resource to ensure success.
Final Thoughts from One Parent to Another
College can be overwhelming—for both you and your student. But with a bit of planning, some strategic conversations, and knowing the rules of the game, you can help them thrive. So, what’s next? It’s time to embrace your role as the “home sage” and guide them when they need it most.
And don’t forget—join our College Success Life Facebook group and share your stories, tips, and experiences with other parents in the same boat. We’re all in this together!
Lastly, grab our FREE guide: 5 Keys to College Academic Success and stay ahead of the game. Trust me, you’ll be glad you did!
